Anger Management...

The Goal of anger management is to reduce your emotional feelings and the Physiological arousal caused by the Anger.

You cannot get rid of, or avoid it, but you can learn to control your Reaction.

Let us analyze this topic little Deeply

(1) Why people are getting Angry?

Following may be the reasons:

• Low tolerance for Frustration

• Don’t know how to react in a Particular situation

• Lack of knowledge about the Situation

• Culture

• Family back Ground,

• Not able to accept others skill or superiority in certain Fields

Strategies to keep anger under control:

1) First we have to find out the trigger point that triggers the Anger

Strategies

(1) Relaxation:

1) Breath Deeply

2) Slowly repeat a word you like. Ex. Relax, take it Easy

3) Visualize the relaxing Experience

4) Close your eyes & Remember the recent happy moment for a few Minutes

(2) Problem solving:

• Do some work when you are frustrated or Disappointed. Work shall be preferably related to your hobby or interest like Playing Games, Reading Magazines, Writing, etc...

• Talk to your friend about the situation & ask for a Comment

(3) Better communication:

• Never take decisions when you are in an angry mood, mostly it will be a wrong decision.

• When you are in a heated discussion control yourself, Listen carefully to what the other person is saying and take your time before answering

• It’s natural to get defensive when you are criticized but don’t fight, instead listen to what is underlying the words

(4) Humour:

• Humour will always help to un knot the tense Situation

• Try to remember some Happy Situation

• Humor should not imitate the other person Activities

• Personal comments are to be Avoided

(5) Changing Environment:

• Give yourself Break

• Make the environment Conducive

• If you are not able to change the environment change your location for a brief period. Ex: Go to the garden, or watch the beautiful flowers outside of your work Place

(6) Timing:

• Analyze the time when you are discussing serious matters

• Change the time to discuss the important serious matters

(7) Avoid:

If you feel that some people are disturbing your activities avoid the people for sometime

Alternatives:

Some people will get angry due to traffic jam & other common problems

Change your way to come to office or change your routine work

(8) Do you need counseling?

Still if you feel that your anger is really out of control please consult a psychologist or other licensed mental health professional. They can work with you in developing a range of techniques for changing your thinking and your behavior.

## Remember you cannot eliminate anger and it would not be a good idea if your could in spite of all your efforts things will happen that will cause you anger and some times it will be just finish anger

Life will be filled with frustration, pain loss, and the unpredictable action of others you cannot change that but you change way you let such events affect you

Controlling your response can keep them from making you even move unhappy in the long run

I think this is enough on anger management. I'll try to bring something else next time ;-)

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